THE Struggle....A Mom Milestone

Oh the fun to be had!

     Alright, there's another struggle in motherhood no one told me about...trying not to laugh in front of them, especially if you do not want them to think it's funny!! I kid you not I have the hardest time with this! I was talking with the boys the other day and with a completely serious tone, Arron said "I can't sit on that chair, it rocks my booty." He was genuinely upset about the chair being uneven, but it was comical how he said it and was visibly upset over a simple thing! I just had to find a way to not laugh out loud. Another time was when the boys had gotten into a fight, and Evan went to apologize and hug Arron. Well, Arron was not ready for an apology and didn't want a hug...Evan got so upset he couldn't say sorry! The next thing I know Arron starts up crying because Evan's crying was hurting his ears, so they were both just hysterical and I was trying my best not to bust out laughing as they were being insanely dramatic together. Well I failed at that part and they both got mad at me for laughing! It's the worst when they are doing something they aren't supposed to do and know it! They make sure to be extra cute and make it incredibly hard for you to maintain a straight face when enforcing a time out! I didn't ever consider this struggle until I ran into it! I hadn't heard other moms say "oh just you wait, not laughing is one of the hardest parts!" I know it's frustrating when they come out of their room painted in peanut butter, but it's also funny when they flip out that it doesn't just wipe off! When this happens and I assure you it will laughing will not help convey that it is socially unacceptable to walk around covered in peanut butter and we cannot wipe it off brother and eat it! I've found hiding behind a corner while giggling helps quite a lot, then you can get your mom face back on and handle the craziness of children again because while you were giggling someone unrolled two rolls of toilet paper and hid in the pile of it! Just remember don't let them see you laugh at the not so good things!

Tattoos....touchy I know!

do you think tattoos matter to them?

    I've heard many things about my tattoos from many people. To be honest, Most of what I hear is negative I have nine tattoos and have many more planned. My children adore each one they think they are the coolest things. However there's one thing that needs to be addressed, parenting. I don't care if you chose to formula feed or breast feed, if you spank or do time out. Those are your choices and no one else's. I'm talking about the stigma that tattooed parents aren't good parents...it's a load of shit. If I have 200 tattoos or if I had zero tattoos I would still parent my children the very best I could! I have literally been told "By you having tattoos you are a horrible parent and a sinner." Now as for the sinner part, you can believe what you want religiously that's your business but I refuse to let people be so ignorant as to think my tattoos change how I parent my kids. If anything, they show my kiddos not to judge based on appearances. We have a friend who is covered in tattoos looks like he'd be a mean guy and not care at all. WRONG! He has a heart of gold no matter what is on his skin, this applies to other people as well. There are bad people with tattoos yes, are there bad people without tattoos? Yes. There are also good people with tattoos and without them. Skin is just skin!! Well that's my rant for today. Enjoy your weekend!! 

So This Happened.

    

Have you ever known your kiddo was a smart one and then got pleasantly surprised at what they know and then felt like a crap mom for not knowing? Well it happened today. Our boys adore reading all types of spider books with their Papa, we never really thought that much into it. The boys were in the backyard playing and found a little spider and caught it. E was carrying it all around calling it his "new friend", I was telling him to put him back. A came up and told me "Oh momma, it's just a wolf spider he won't hurt ya." My brother in law was over and thought no way is he right, so he "googled it".....My three year old was right. I was just over here like "holy crap when did you learn that?" I spend all day everyday with them and I had no idea that they knew species of spiders! I feel proud but also like I dropped the ball with that.
      On another note, today E came up and got about two inches away from my face, He proceeded to look very closely at my face. After a while he asked "Momma are you OLD?" I was shocked and replied, " Uhh, no baby I'm 20." his response, "your eyes look old......" "Thanks bud." After he realized maybe mom isn't old, He shouts from the bathroom "Mom am I OLD?!" This has basically summed up my day with the hooligan boys. Little miss today has been babbling about Dada and trying out a sippy cup. She loves it by the way.

TWINS the truth

  As a mom with twins you hear many many things. I've heard things like "Do they have the same dad?" to  "Since you have two I can have one right?" If you are expecting twins get ready to hear some weird shit...even if you're not expecting twins get ready to hear crazy shit.                                         

People always have something to say in regards to your child, with twins however it's a little more invasive. You will always hear you get two for the price of one, NO! That is not how it is even a little....two for the price of TWO! They do not share anything once they are old enough to scream for their own. They do not like the same things...get over it, they're two people. One will like red and the other yellow do not try to make them both like one color or superhero or princess they will fight and honestly it's not worth the fight. They will not want to sleep together forever they need to be able to have their own space. Another misconception is they'll be each other's best friend! That's a fantastic idea however let me tell you they will know how to be the other's worst enemy. They know just how to piss the other one off to the extreme with minimal effort. Don't get me wrong they will be close and be friends and play together but they will fight just like any other sibling maybe even more so. Back to the comments, you will be asked their genders no matter if they are in blue and green or pink and purple. You will be told about anyone that they know that has twins. Even if you don't care that their best friends great niece had fraternal twins from IVF and had a c-section, you will hear about it. People will say it gets easier when they start walking....nope they don't go the same different directions. You will hear how one is cuter than the other or asked which one is the good one or who is your favorite. If you have ever asked anyone these apologize! It's strait up offensive and annoying! Especially if they say I love them both and they each have their days do not keep pressing for an answer! You will be asked who was born first, their names, how big they were and how far along you made it. These will be asked every time you venture out with the babies or toddlers. People say dumb crap when they see something cool...lets face it twins are cool but they are by no means easy! I guess I'll end this informative rant here and pickup on another day.

 

Alright here it goes

      My first blog post, what to say? I am a young mom of three, I have twin boys that are almost 4 and a baby girl. Things can get pretty crazy in my house. Well I wanted to start this blog as an outlet and a place to share the reality of having twins. I want to share my ideas and tips for parenting and all the other things I come up with through my day. I want readers to have input for their ideas too, and hope so see your comments to get other ideas also. My life is pretty crazy at times and I never stay with one topic for long so I won't restrict my blogging to one idea or aspect of my life but rather share it as a whole.